Day In the life - Stay At Home Mom Of Twins edition

Remember when I was a SAHM for like two weeks with twins?  Me neither, but it happened in June.  Here is what June 2nd was like:

6:30 am to 9:30 am, not pictured, dropped Ezra (7) and Lily (5) at school, packed lunches, slowly got out of house with Aubrey and Clara (2.5)

9:30 At the park:

10:00 Snack Time

10:30 More Park

11:00 Take the train from near the park for no reason going nowhere

11:30 get off train then get on train going back to the same station we left from

12:00 Spend hours (or maybe minutes) getting back into the car to go home

12:30 Lunch time gets messy

1:00 Naptime. See lots of mess to clean up and sit down instead and instantly lose all motivation

2:30 and also what felt like seconds later, time to get up from nap 

3:00 Pack snack and head off to pick up big kids from school

3:30-4:30, not pictured, walked to the park, suddenly a kid yells I NEED A POO and then we have to go home but the other kids cry because they wanted to go to the park.  And yes this is the same park that we previously abandoned a play date because a kid had to poo so I really don't understand how anyone does after school park trips because for us it ends with crying and running home for poops every time.  Is that a lot of poop chat for a blog?  Too bad, poop is my twin mom life.

4:30 Drive to a different park instead, after everyone uses the toilet

5:00 everyone looking tired from lots of park time

5:15 Walk back to the car, slowly.

5:45 tidy up before dinner

6:30 I have no memory of what dinner was but I guess there wasn't enough and kids are eating something with peanut butter after?

7:30 kids bedtimes done and time for tidying up and also bed

And that was a day of twin life.  It's cute, they're cute, and I feel tired and mentally unstimulated just logging that day out on this blog.

Saturday Update - Random bloggy things, photos, fun time,

My bloggy rhythm is just... off right now.

I was working on photo album project and I realized I have so many photos I took to write blog posts with us and then I never wrote them and now the photos are just random.  I have a post on being a jerk and a day in the life with two year old twins and have written neither post.

I'm happy to report that twin sleep is much improved.  They are now sleeping around 7:30, which is the right time.  We can usually get all kids down by 8:15, and the house sometimes even sorted by 8:30.  It is good.

Last night a friend offered to do bedtime and babysit so Andy and I could go out.  The last time we left the house together with kids awake was March so this was a big deal. We have had two date nights/days so far in 2026 (two got canceled due to twins terrible sleep and Nanny's unfortunate injury).  We went for a hike up a local mountain (yay!) and then went to a local pub for a drink and some cheesy chips.  I tried to take a cool photo:

We dropped off the car at home and went for one more drink at a walking distance pub but then the pub was too crowded and loud so instead we went to the grocery store and bought some cans (and some fruit for the kids) and came home to watch White Lotus.  

We are really enjoying season 1 so far.

This morning I got some Rachel time, so went to the gym for a quick strength workout courtesy of ChatGPT

And then I went and did Parkrun - a free 5k run.  I have not run at all since the half marathon in October of last year so I took it very easy, except for racing past to people at the end because I had a bit more in the tank.  Does it make me a jerk to run fast at the end of a social 5k timed run with 237 people running?  It does mean I came in 214th instead of 216th so I guess that's good, but it does make me feel a bit rude to pick up the pace in the last 200 meters just because I can and because someone is ahead of me - I ended up 4 seconds ahead of the next runner.

There are a bunch of life admin things I should/could do with this Rachel time... but I am not feeling them right now.  Because of summer holidays my fridays are now kids-all-day days, not kids 2.5 hours of childcare days, and losing 2 hours of life admin time is basically losing 1/2 of my garunteed weekly admin time so I'll cut myself some logistical slack here.

On Thursday I did manage to spend about an hour working on kids photo albums.  Albums take about 1-1.5 hours a month to stay up-to-date.   I got very behind.  This far behind:

I'm fairly sure I can catch up in 3-4 hours... but every month I don't catch up adds and hour to the load.  Since the kids albums are printed on their birthdays the first album is "due" in September, when Lily turns 6!  Then Ezra/Aubrey/Clara all have birthdays in October.  I was somewhat behind last October so it would be great to not start the year behind.

Maybe if I wasn't watching White Lotus I would be up early enough to write a blog.... but I'm really enjoying White Lotus

Have you seen White Lotus? Do you feel bloggy behind sometimes?

We made it! Family camping trip 1 - Camping with 4 young kids is not impossible and actually kind of fun.

We survived our first family camping trip!

It went amazingly well.  Some things that made it work:

1. We camped with friends who were experienced family campers and owned all the kit needed, like a kids play gazebo and also brought so many toys

2. We found an awesome campsite which had 4 pitches and we basically had a private field

3. The weather was basically perfect the whole time, because we did not pack anything for rain/cold. 

I was fairly nervous about this trip because I could not imagine family camping but it turns out kids love fields and playing and freedom and fresh air and I am a converted family camping person now.  

We stayed in West Wales, about 2.5 hours away.  West Wales is gorgeous and has amazing beaches.

Andy bought a second hand 6 person tent a week before we left, and we all crammed into one room together, but it worked:

There were a few nights of sleep shenanigans, but there were also a few nights where grown ups hung out and played games and drank beer by the fire and it was awesome.

Twins slept on one of these IKEA pads, and we bought £10 inflatable mattresses for the big kids.  Air beds are annoying and break and are also the most comfortable camping bed that exists IMHO.

We visited a local castle and the kids had lessons in being knights and loved it:

We went to the harbour and ate lots of snacks:

The beaches were gorgeous, as always (when the sun is out)

Aubrey loved a breakfast ice lolly on our departure day.

So far I have done 4 loads of laundry since getting back and have about 2 left.  Andy has taken the kids out this morning to give me some admin time.  I have a million things I want/need to do.

• Updating budget for July
• Uploading July photos 
• August thinking/planning/goals
• Making a plan for how to keep going with photo albums
• Listing some twin stuff on Gumtree/Ebay that we realized we don't use/need
• Hoovering (done!)
• More laundry
• Texts/emails
• Blog post (a better one than this)
• Exercise (I need to do a peloton thing today or I'll lose my week streak!) 

All those things sound boring.  I would rather be camping.

Are you a camping person?  A family camper? A wilderness camper? Camping curious or a camping no?

Photos and Happenings from the First Week of Summer

One week of summer down!  Here are are some bits from the first week of summer:

Long Slide

When Elisabeth was here she visited Wales's longest slide, which opened a few weeks ago (or, actually, just over a month ago because it was when Elisabeth was here that the news excitedly asked "Is This The Longest Slide in Wales?"). On Thursday we took the kids to check it out for ourselves.  

It is, indeed, long! It was hot and I failed to get a good photo:

There was a cute kids park too (my kids are cute, but the park was also cute)

Everyone got on a wide slide together and I said "oh let me take a phot before the crying starts!" and then everyone went down the slide and at the bottom Aubrey somehow fell off the side and went mouth first into a rock and there was a lot of blood and it was time to go home.  Her face has recovered, but sadly her shirt is now in the clothing scrap pile.  Maybe this relates to my aforementioned inability to get stains out of clothes, but I could not get the blood out with a double wash or air dry or stain remover or sun.  Oh well.

That afternoon,  I decided to "cool mom" and give the kids ice cream for snack!  Then, everyone had a really rough behaviour afternoon and I maybe I am not actually a cool mom.  But in this moment they enjoyed it.

New Planner

During one of the mornings of parent-childcare I managed to sit down and order our 26/27 planner while some subset of the kids played! This is a crazy new level of parental independence during parent-childcare.  I haven't looked in it to check I didn't make any mistakes BUT It looks good! 

We order our planners from Personal Planner and have for years - I love having a big family planner to work with.  I also love that it prints birthdays and memorable dates in the planner.  This year I splashed out on some new pens too:

Last week at some point the twins helped us decorate our existing weekly spread:

Does this week look way more fun when unreadably stickered?

My Science Kid

This week Ezra donated his brain for science!  Cardiff University has a Tiny Tots Research Lab which was doing an experiment on something and I signed Ezra up.  In April Ezra did an experiment with a smartwatch and tangrams. We got invited to another part of the study where he got to play a game on a tablet (Scratch Labs Junior?) and then they monitored his brain for ???.  I probably should have listened more.

I was mostly watching this one:

She is my first ever "plays quietly with toys" kid.  It is so new and different.

In the research study, Ezra liked the tablet but did not like the gel that they put in the EEG hat thing.  

First Doctor's Appointment of the Summer

On Wednesday Aubrey had an allergic reaction to a new suncream (I think it may have gotten in her eyes) and ended up at the doctor.  She looked truly awful and unhappy but with time and antihistamines she was better in the evening.  It was so sad to see a poorly kid and so good to see her feeling better!  

I often feel I go to the doctor with a kid who looks healthy but I think is ill (they perk up for the Dr!) but this time I had a kid who looked terrible and the doctor spent a good amount of time making sure she wasn't actually as ill as she looked

She was back to normal that evening, poor Aubrey.

Unphotographed things from last week

• I had 2 really productive days in work and then one way less productive day.
• My gym buddy and I walked up a local mountain/hill (my favourite local small hike which I did with Kyria and Elisabeth
• I made a really good dinner of veggies and vegan sausage in the air frier
• Andy and I got everyone to bed at 8pm last night and there was a TEAR FREE and super easy twin bedtime.  Before bedtime project there were both tears and long bedtimes.  Hopefully this is a sign of actual progress
• I finished Aubrey & Clara's photo albums through April, and Ezra and Lily through March.  It would be awesome to get caught up by August... I think my block with albums was that we took so so many photos on our Portugal holiday and it was an overwhelming amount of photo updates to manage.  But you eat an elephant one bite at a time and you update an album one photo at a time.
• I did not make my two strength training sessions this week. My brother was visiting (and sleeping in my office/peloton room) and my kid days are tiring.  
• I wore my apple watch this week and apparently I do 10,000 steps on kid days by never sitting down because I definitely don't do any actual exercise.
• After the last day of school I washed all the kids school uniform and pulled out everything that was too small and/or too stained and then ordered everything we need in a slightly larger size ready for September.  Last year all the uniform was sold out when I was trying to get it before school so I am glad I have already done the audit, and a mere £60 we are all kitted out for next year.   Lily managed to not destroy a fair amount of uniform which is now boxed away for Aubrey and Clara.

All in all, a good start to the summer holidays!

Twin sleep updates, bedtime improvement plan, 10% of my waking life is too much time spent on someone else's sleep.

Elisabeth is recapping her Cardiff visit over on her blog - it seems crazy that it was over a month ago she was here!  She recently posted about our trip to St. Fagans, which is my all time favourite museum.  I also can't believe a month ago I had two helpers for twin nursery and lunch.  

In some ways, I feel like Elizabeth's trip was the start of the twins being interesting little people.  I know that sounds terrible, but for me, twins are hard. It was hard to experience them as little people and not just moving bundles of need.  There are so many needs! Clara is especially clumsy, and can trip over nothing, and can be (understandably!) upset about it.  Aubrey is generally so happy, but also know her mind, and know the right way to do anything.  Clara is far more experimental.  Between them, there can be very strong (and very loud) disagreement on many things

However, recently, there is also a lot of fun.   They talk to each other! They build magna tile castles together! They play funny games and chose their own entertainment and sometimes can entertain themselves for 15 or 20 minutes.

They play with the big kids sometimes

They are really cute

Anyways - one thing Elisabeth's post made me realize is that it has now been almost two months of terrible horrible no good very bad bedtimes.  So while they are becoming cute little people, their bedtimes are a growing source of frustration.

When Elisabeth was here we were working on twin bedtime - they had just moved out of cribs in May (for safety reasons - I would keep crib to 5 if I could!) and every night was a long long bedtime battle/process that was just... bad.

Plus, we have 2 other kids to get to bed.   Crib bedtime started at 6:45 for twins, 7:15 for Lily, 7:30 for Ezra, and everyone was generally asleep by 8pm (one parent could usually start tidying up at 7:30).  Bedtimes for everyone were now taking a lot longer - and sometimes twin bedtime pushed big kid bedtime back to the point that no one was able to start dinner clean up until 8:30 or 9. 

Like all good problems, bedtime needed a spreadsheet.  

It was easy to see why Andy and I were starting to lose the plot - bedtime was taking an average of 1hr 15 minutes.  Every week, we were spending 8 or more hours of our life putting twins to sleep.  7% to 10% of the waking day was used "doing bedtime"

Neither Andy or I have done an evening activity in 2 months, Andy quit his run club, I barely made it to one book club, we missed our dinner date, we barely maintained a basic FLOM (we were so wiped out from bedtime that we couldn't really plan), I went to the office once since moving to beds.  It has been, honestly, bad.

Yesterday we devised a bedtime improvement plan.  I am cautiously optimistic.  There was some crying yesterday, but not a lot, and bedtime took 30 minutes, not 90 minutes.  I remember reading once that when it comes to kids sleep there is time and crying and you can chose one or the other or both. I don't have time for both.  

Fingers crossed for better bedtimes. It will be way more fun to enjoy time with fun little people when I know the fun will end with sleep. 

End of school, transitions, Weekend plans, Clothing Improvement Project, Summer Planning.

 I love the energy of transitions.  Yesterday was the last day of school.  Drop off was chaotic and I couldn't get the year-end photo of the kids together, but I got one of Lily and my mom got one of Ezra since we ended up doing separate drop offs.  I looked back on little Lily and Ezra and from September and even without a new photo they look so small!

We had 5 kid friends over after school for ice cream (and 3 sets of parents) and with our 4 kids and 2 parents the garden felt FULL.  Big kids take up so much more space than little ones.

Then we had kids charcuterie board for dinner. Remember like 2 years ago when I wanted to make more kids charcuterie boards?  Maybe I will bring this back, the kids loved it:

I mean yes, it's basically sandwiches for dinner.

This weekend I have Rachel morning today, and I will likely use it to go to the gym and do some logistics.  I keep thinking it would be fun to do a swim on a Rachel morning but not wanting to book anything until I'm sure that's how I want to spend my time... then when I try to book the swimming is full.  I guess there have been enough mornings where I wished I was swimming so maybe I should just go ahead and book?

I am also working AGAIN on clothing improvement project.  l bought this new shirt, please ignore silly face:

I am excited to have another shirt because of the 3 I have been rotating, one now has a stain (waah!).  

This has to be another post on laundry because why are my clothes getting so stained all the time?  What am I doing wrong... besides having lots of kids.  And cooking with Olive Oil.  It's probably the oil.

Planning Summer - Magic is just labour, hidden well

I have mostly figured out the kids summer plans.  Next week my brother is coming to visit, and there are 2 days where I'm in work my mom and brother were watching the big kids while our nanny watches the twins (she could theoretically watch all 4, but that is a lot of kids, and honestly everyone has a better time with more age appropriate days).  

Yesterday I looked through a bunch of local events to draft up what the big kids could do on those days to keep them out of the house (I'm working from home) - they're going to a film (Toy Story 5), taking a boat trip, doing a litter pick from the library, and going to a bouncy castle.  I think the days should go well, but it definitely reminded me of Laura Vanderkam's saying "All magic is just labour, hidden well.  My mom and brother should have a good time, the kids should have a good time, the twins should have a good time, I should be able to get a day of work in.... and all it cost was an hour of my logistical planning during my very scarce childcare hours to make it happen.

And for a very random change of topic - San recently posted about situations where people may or not be... A**holes.  I love this post because I love seeing how people experience the world.  I think San is very similar to me in that she generally gives people the benefit of the doubt in situations, and we have both been told before that maybe others are *not* being their best selves.  Pop over to her post and ponder the question - are people A**holes?  Or very very unaware?  

Morning thoughts on the last week of school, sports day, teacher gifts, work focus (or not)

It is (finally) the last week of school.  Here are some last-week of school thoughts.

Weather, first on my mind:  It has been epicly sunny recently.  I do not remember the UK ever having this much sustained sunshine.  It's been hot but not too hot - even though it's getting to 80 every day it's also pretty dry and there is a breeze.  I have to put suncream on the kids daily.  Lily has lost two hats in school.  Ezra lost a hat at a birthday party but luckily I got it back.  It's warm.

Childcare: Our amazing Nanny is back full-time today after two half days. I've did two kid pick ups this week.  It turns out that when I pick up kids after a full day of watching twins I am tired and worn and filled with dread, but when I pick up kids after a day of work and then only have 2 hours of watching kids and twins before dinner I really enjoy it.  Interesting to know.

Sports Day Saga: Ezra and Lily finally had sports day - this was delayed twice due to rain and twice due to heat.  Sports Day is a British tradition where school kids compete in egg and spoon races and other random sports and parents come and watch and it's a BIG DEAL.  I knew about it before I had kids because many colleagues would take random half days from work because it was sports day.  

The schools usually split into 4 or so houses that all compete.  Sometimes it's hard for me to remember the difference between living in the UK and living in Harry Potter.  

Teacher Gifts: I joined WhatsApp again after a long absence and got added to the school group for Lily.  One of the moms sorted a present for the teachers via the chat, but besides that I'm fairly sure I'm going to leave all WhatsApp groups in August.  I can see where I will sort of need it for the PTA but mostly it seems unnecessary and I still prefer text.  

We bought £5 Starbucks gift cards for every teacher in the wraparound club the kids go to.  I know they don't get paid much and I so appreciate having wraparound care!  We will drop them off today with the card.

We also have £5 coffee vouchers to the outdoor teachers (PE/ART).  Ezra made the following card for his PE teacher:

Twins have their year end party for their Friday nursery, which is at 11:15 on Friday and has a raffle.  Do you love a school raffle? I do.  I feel like it's so much better than donating money when I might win a really random prize.  The only issues is I cannot tell if the 11:15 party has food. 

End of Year Wrap Up: I think we've returned all the school books to the school. We've also donated some furniture to the after school club.  The kids have loved the school lunches this week because they had sausages TWICE - I think they are using up all the leftover school food.   We've had a pile of art home for Ezra.  We returned bookbags and didn't get them back.

It's all winding down.  Or winding up? Hard to tell.

On Friday, to celebrate the last day of school, I've invited some kids from Lily's class over for Ice Cream after school.  Which means I need to get ice cream. And cones. And sprinkles.  

Everything feels fast and flexible right now, which is fun but not the best for focusing in work.  Maybe no one focuses in July?  I'm not sure August will be the month of focus either, but professionally I'm not sure it's great to achieve nothing from May to September (which is how I feel about my year).

Is school end a distant memory for you?  Do you achieve anything professionally in the summer or is it a write-off? Do you do teacher gifts, class WhastApps, or class parties?  Am I insane for inviting 5 people over for post-school Ice Cream or is it a major life hack because we don't have to leave the house?