Weekend Family Fun, Marty Parenting, Grumpy Saturdays, and more Coat Conundrums.

I promise, I'm not becoming a daily blogger.  I have been getting up earlier (5:30am) and blogging appears to be the easiest thing that is both nice for me and OK to get fully interrupted by the chaos of potential kid mornings.

During our weekend planning Andy and I intentionally made this weekend a "family fun" weekend.  We have had a lot of family arguing and not-fun recently and we decided it was time for some fun.  On Saturday morning Ezra had his last tennis lesson and I was planning to take the girls to the library and park to ride bikes, then we could all meet up for coffee.

One of our children threw a massive wobbler about this. There was probably over an hour of crying by 8:30am.  One of our children was late for tennis, and instead of meeting at the park I dragged the twins out of the house at 10:30 (this is late to leave for stuff) and we went to a local museum to look at animals.

I was catastrophically annoyed about the morning.  I am not a martyr mum but we are basically becoming martyr parents.  Nowhere on our weekend plan was there anything resembling intentional grown up fun for Andy or me. No gym, no bike, no personal time.  Yes, kids at parks is "fun" but my exercise is basically 0 these days and it seems like it should be possible to fit 90 minutes of individual sport into a weekend.

Something to look into.

The afternoon play date went well, Lily's friend came for crafting and girl play and then her mum invited Lily over for Friday of school half term which happens to be the day I have all 4 children myself so now I have only 3 for some of the day and it should be so much easier!

Kids doing crafting is very cute, I forgot to take a photo.  There are easter stickers on everything now.

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 My non-progress on Jacket Audit is not ideal.  The only casual and put-together jacket I own is my denim jacket.  Which is great, except most of my trousers are denim and I start to look like a cowgirl.

I am going to be classically British today and go to Sainsburys to buy some clothes.

Maybe this one

Or maybe this

But also, maybe I need a fleece vest?

I probably just need to spend some time on Jacket project and wardrobe project.  It is a 2026 goal (to dress better and wear my clothes better).

What a playdate with me actually looks like // Maybe "stay at home" is made for people like me.

I feel like on this blog I do a fair amount of cute photos and then some "oh this is hard" chat and then more "we went to france!" chat. 

I don't really see many families with 4 kids in our age range that I can compare(?) myself to, so maybe I'm just doing it badly, or maybe I'm doing it well, or maybe it's like a tough mudder race and there is no bad or good because who would even want to do that? (lots of people... but it's morning and I can't think of a better analogy)

There is a mom at school with 3 kids, girl (8), girl (5), boy (1.5) and she always seems so calm with her kids walking next to her and not being chaos.  Other than that... I don't know many 4 kids families or even 3 kid families.

Anyways, let me invite you to join my play date yesterday!

A friendly aquantence had asked to meet up in the park after school.   I like her and haven't seen for a long time.  It was Friday, it was sunny.  Why not?

3:00 Twins were not happy to be up from nap, Aubrey was very sad.  I threw snack and drinks in the pram, got the twins in the pram, picked up the kids from school. Walked to the park. 

3:45  Got to the park. There were lots of kids there. Aubrey was still sad. Clara was curious.  Ezra and Lily ran off and I couldn't see them.  Friend showed up!  Friends mum helped push Clara on the swing.  Aubrey was sad.  

3:50 Lily said she needed a wee.  Friend and Lily went off for a wee in the woods.

3:55 Aubrey started yelling "wee wee potty" and I realized she had pooped AND I had forgotten the nappy bag.

I asked a stranger for a nappy and he said he didn't have any.  

I saw another friend with a 1 year old and managed to squeeze Aubrey into a size 4 nappy and clean up her teeny tiny poo while she stood on a bench at the park.

I caught up with friend's mum for 2 minutes.  

4:00 Lily and friend came back and Lily said she needed a poo RIGHT NOW.

I asked friend if she wanted to come back to my house so that Lily could do a poo.  She agreed (probably because this play date had literally lasted 15 minutes so far)

4:15 We got back to my house and Lily did do a poo, and then Aubrey was sad and vomited on the floor.  I tried to clean it up quickly while friend's mom was outside

Lily went to find friend to show her the giant poo.  Because... kids.  I didn't catch this because of aforementioned vomit.

I told Lily and Friend to go outside and play.  They did.  Friend's mum watched everyone outside while I cleaned up Aubrey and got her new clothes.

4:20 I noticed our neighbour I've never met had a girl who was looking through our garden and wanted to come play.  I invited her in.  She played with the kids in the garden while I tried to talk with friend's mum.

4:25 Clara fell down and broke her plastic bike in two and started crying.

4:30 All the big kids ran in to neighbours garden.

4:40 Friend said she had to go (which was the right time) so we yelled into neighbours garden to get kids back.

4:45 I couldn't get over to say goodbye because Clara had gone to the back of the garden and was trying to climb in neighbours garden and I was carrying Audrey

I managed to carry both Clara and Aubrey to the gate to let friend out and say goodbye.

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So that's probably the end of that acquaintanceship right?

I do really value being social and so have tried to keep different friendships and acquaintanceships going throughout these young kids years, but I'm thinking maybe it's just not a good idea.  Maybe my family in its current state is just not world ready, and the best thing to do is just not try.  Maybe 4 kids is just not something that people should have to engage with so closely.

Chat GPT drafted me this nice text I can send to the remaining few people who have invited me/us to do things:

When we had twins we said we weren't going to travel untill they turned 2.  Maybe we need to commit not to have a social life until they are... 4?

The Sun has come out... today! some randoms on a Friday

I have felt good this week.  The sun came out.  It might literally be that all my mental ennui is due to cloudy weather.  Would I be happy all the time in a more temperate climate?  Maybe I need to move to the South of France?

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Today I have 2 extra hours of childcare.  I decided not to make plans for the time, but to just do whatever stuff I wanted to do.  I spent some time working on photo albums - Aubrey and Clara both had 7 photos in Feb so their updates were easy.  I am saving Ezra and Lily and Family album for later since it includes the France trip and there are A LOT of photos.

While in snapfish I decided to order the 2025 Album I've never finished/printed.  I added some missing text and then bought it! And I got the best discount I've ever seen - 60%.  I thought 50% was the best, but now I'll know to hang on for 60% in the future

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Photo albums are a good reflection of how much things change between summer and winter.  Winter just... sucks.  I am not sure what can be done about it... Hygge is all well and good but it's not enough to carry from October to March.  I realize Fall is in there too... but I feel like fall is about a month long and then winter is 5 months.   I think bears have it right and next year I should plan to hibernate for all of January and Feb and come out on the first sunny day of March

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I can tell other people are also coming out of hibernation now, I've had texts off people I haven't seen for ages inviting us to play dates, which is nice.  This afternoon we are meeting up with a friend of Lilah's who I haven't seen since October.  It sometimes feels that our October Pumpkin Party is the closing ceremony of our social life.  Maybe we need an Easter themed Opening Ceremony?

Whats your weather? Is spring here? are your winters awful?

Things that are working // things that are not

Getting up early is Working.  I've started setting my alarm for 5:30am.  Kids sleep until at least 6am (usually 6:30) and my mornings have started to feel longer.  Yesterday I went to the office, which meant I left at 7:25am, but I had already had 2 hours at home.  I didn't feel rushed and chaos, although I did forget my phone charger and bring headphones instead, and I forgot my water bottle, so it wasn't an ideal get out.

I did wear my new blazer and thrifted dress! But my selfie skills are super sub par.  I have a whole head, I promise.

Not getting enough sleep is Not Working I know this is the other side of an early morning and I should be going to bed at 9 but kids finish bedtime at 8:00 and then dishes and house and stuff means I don't feel like going to bed at 9.  I've been falling asleep around 10:30, which is 7 hours of sleep, and slightly under the 7.5 I sort of need to function.

Sorting the house is Working I carved out a few hours of time to sort the house earlier this week and it makes me feel better that things are (or were) more in their place, even if it's not visually obvious I've accomplished anything at all.

The dishwasher is Not Working.  On Tuesday night the dishwasher died.  Andy thinks it's the element, and a new element is £150.  We have a 10 year parts warranty, but apparently the call out to use this warranty is £150, and varying levels of responsiveness and timescale.  We got this dishwasher in August 2023 (it was a warranty replacement for one that broke 6 weeks after purchase!) and 2.5 years seems really short for a dishwasher lifespan.  According to the internet, dishwashers are meant to last 8-10 years based on 4-5 cycles a week.  We run our dishwasher twice a day (at least) so... maybe 2.5 years is like 8-10 years in normal dishwasher life?  It still seems early for it to give up.

Replacing the dishwasher is Working I am immensely thankful that I am in a position where dropping £450 suddenly on a new dishwasher isn't a catastrophic situation.  Is it how I wanted to spend £450? No.  Is it crippling? No.  We have a new dishwasher arriving Monday (with a full 5 year warranty this time)

Budgeting for our house stuff is Not Working. Every year in January we make a list of house things we want to buy and then every year by March we seem to have bought totally different house stuff.  Here was our planned costs for the year:

And here are our actuals so far

Realistically our lighting upgrade probably won't cost that or we won't do it.  It was a "to do" from 2022.  We upgraded our kitchen lighting with a side-of-the-road freebie fixture, but it's not amazing.

You may notice the Cleaner line item.  Having a cleaner is distinctively Not Working.  Maybe my standards are too high.  Maybe good cleaners are totally full so when someone can fit me in it means they are not a good cleaner.   The last cleaner combined bleach and chlorine to get the toilets clean.  Apparently that is a "cleaning hack" that also produces chlorine gas and is super dangerous.  The cleaner before was expensive and the house wasn't clean.  I'm thinking about trying a service (not an individual), for a spring "deep clean" or also about just having a messy house for longer and/or realizing that I can hoover and dust in 2 years when the twins are in school.

There are a bunch of little things that I would say are Not Working (sport, ability to focus in work, fun nice family time on the weekends) but also overall some subset of these things are Working (I do get gym buddy once or twice a week, I can sometimes focus on things and intend to, we are trying to build more family fun into the weekend and it will be easier when the sun comes out) so overall, it's all fine.

And, to sign off in a very british way... after a long awful dark crappy cold wet winter... this weather is definitely WORKING

What is working and not working for you right now?

Spring Cleaning, Spring Mess, Trashbag Energy

My house is too full.

I know I'm supposed to lean into minimalism to help clear the clutter in mind and space or whatever but I very much don't want to minimize the number of people in this house and people seem to come with stuff and there is stuff everywhere.

Did you know British houses generally don't have closets? The house we live in is 1950s and it has no closets.  We built one "built in" into the twins room but otherwise... everything is in the room.  No doors to hide anything.

I dream of a closet.

When we went to France both Ezra and Lily fell out of their beds almost every night.  I asked why and Ezra noted that his bed has sides.  I sort of forgot, but he has been sleeping on one of these toddler beds (although it is fully extended)

So we went on Gumtree and bought a twin bed for his room with no sides because it is a normal bed.  It's also 10cm wider and now we are moving around the rest of his room.  So it looks like this at present

(Well, the bed is now made, and the hoover gone, but still... it's chaos)

And then outside his room looks like this

On, and there is now a disassembled toddler bed in my office.

As he went through his toys on which to keep and which to maybe put in the one closet or give to the twins he decided the keep pile was EVERYTHING. 

"but what about this puzzle for ages 3+? I think Aubrey might like it" I suggested.

"No" he said "Aubrey is only 2 and I like it"

So... stuff.  There is so much stuff.

Yesterday I put away (I almost wrote "folded" but I don't fold laundry until it goes in a drawer) 5 loads of laundry.  I know this is because I have slowly accumulated enough clothes for everyone that we can actually get to 5 loads... but it was so much laundry.

I know this is natural within the spring clean cycle and whatnot, but I have the urge to get rid of everything and start over.  I am also a classic over-declutterer.  I still have young kids and still need things. I have gotten rid of too much before.

I was listening to some cleaning based podcasts and they often start with "remove trash from your space" and I always think "I don't have trash in my space and the podcast person (Dana K White) said "Everyone has trash" and I realized I do.  I live in a trash space but I could literally spend every minute of every day sorting every room and by the end whatever room. started on would be chaos again.

That's my house complaint.   I feel like the Sisyphus of Stuff while everything else (ie personal sports, hobbies, people, interests) get neglected in favour of stuff management. 

I also realize that "stuff management" doesn't preclude "personal hobbies" but weirdly the time it would take to keep stuff managed is the exact same time it would take to enjoy my own hopies (I am guessing an hour a day?) and so it does feel like I can only pick one.  

It doesn't help that two year olds are not tidy.  Neither are 7 year olds.  The 5 year old is a star.  One of the twins actually loves going through the literal trash and we sometimes call her a trash panda because of this proclivity. 

Thanks for listening to my stuff rant.

March - Looking forward (let's pretend it's not the 12th)

Can I do a "looking forward' post when we are 40% of the way through the month already? Why not - I make the rules!

In March I am excited about...

Date night Okay, this one already happened.  We had our nanny come babysit on a Saturday and she did twin bedtime AND one big kid bedtime and another big kid stayed with my mom and it was amazing to not do bedtime.  Andy and I had Wine and Pizza and stayed out until 10:30.  It was fun.

Book Club A friend of mine started a book club and I love it.  We read The Women for this month's book club (which also already happened because I am so late posting this).  I enjoyed the book and the discussion.  Is it really about friendship? I'm not too sure.

Massage I have a massage person I adore.  She lives around the corner and she is always booked up and I started booking myself a massage ever 6 weeks or so.  I know this is super 1%er but also, it's the same price as drinks or dinner out and I enjoy it so much and rarely ever go out for drinks or dinner.  

Dinner with ex-colleagues I still meet up with some of my colleagues from the job I left in 2022 and we are going out to dinner this month and I'm looking forward to catching up with them

Theatre For Mothers Day (which is this Sunday in the UK) I am going to London to see The Lion King with my mom and Ezra and Lily! It is going to be a BIG day - London is 2.5 hours by train from me - but I think it will be memorable and fun.  The kids are going to ride on a double decker bus! And see London things! They have only ever been to the train stations before in transit so it will be awesome to walk around London with them for a few minutes.

Going to the Office I haven't been to the Bath office since January and I have two Office days this month and I'm looking forward to seeing people (and wearing my new blazer!)

Holiday adventure It's Easter Half Term soon and I'm off to Portugal! That's really the highlight of course.  More details soon - exciting times!

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There are a lot of exciting things happening in March.  I am feeling very out of routine, even though part of what put me out of routine is awesome fun things that I want to do.  Like going on date night, or out to dinner, or to London. I know these are far more memorable than whether I ate decent food and did decent sport.  And I also know that going to london for a day does not preclude me from doing sport for two weeks.  But... I get out of routine easy, and then I am out of routine.

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Also, there's some media stuff I'm excited about.  For instance, I really enjoyed Writers and Lovers 

Now I'm reading The Witches Guide to Magical Inkeeping. I have read one other book by Sangu Mandanna and I think her writing style is supposed to be magical and cute but I find it cute and boring.  I'm still reading it though

I am totally stalled reading both Rest and Best Laid Plans.  I think with Rest it's because I don't really see myself as a creative person right now.  I basically feel like a number cruncher in work.  I'm not sure a nap or a walk will improve my ability to write a good =sumifs equation in excel.

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I started watching the Scrubs reboot.  It's so cute.  I miss watching TV.

Is March getting away from you? Is it chaos or is it just me?

Re-entry report, but for reals this time! (ie the crash and burn chaos part of re-entry, it wasn't avoided, it was just delayed)

We got home from France last Tuesday.  We left Arles at 7:30am, took a train to from Arles to Marseille, and then flew from Marseille to Heathrow.  We landed at Heathrow at 12:30, got food from Marks and Spencer, and then caught the tube to Paddington and the train to Cardiff and the bus home and arrived at 5pm

Some of us were very tired.

On Wednesday everyone went back to school and life and work.  I was surprised my brain functioned OK but I had some big projects to finish because on Thursday I had to go to London for some work meetings.

On Thursday I caught the 6:18am train to London and got back at just after 8pm.  I was very tired.

And then... Clara didn't sleep.  I'm not sure if she missed me or she was teething or what, but my normally great sleeping 2.5 year old was just... awake.  From 1am to 3:30am.

I woke up on Friday and enjoyed my mom coffee (it's what I call 2 cups of coffee and 2-3 ibuprofen, consumed quickly)  

Everyone made it to school (barely) and twins made it to nursery (they go to a 2.5 hour nursery on Fridays) so I could help the school PTA with some event set up for a school bingo and film night that night.  I helped count out money to get ready for the event.

I had signed up to attend with Ezra and Lily, but the film was The Minecraft Movie and I looked it up and it didn't really look appropriate for a 5 year old.  It didn't look appropriate for a 7 year old either, so I had the awful parenting decision of "do I let me kid watch a movie".  Both kids wanted to go.

Oh, also, My sister came to visit! She joined us in france then flew to Wales on Friday.  Lily went to see a film at my mom's with my sister and decided that was OK instead of Minecraft Movie (they watched Nanny McPhee).

I told Andy that Minecraft did not look kid appropriate and that I didn't like the language and he made the astute observation that all the kids in Ezra's class were going to the film so if Ezra didn't hear the language in the film then he would hear it on Monday.  So Ezra went to the film and I went to bingo.

At Bingo I had major "mean girls" fears because I didn't really know any other parents going.  I saw someone I sort of knew and asked if I could sit with them because I had no friends and they said yes, so that was nice.

At the end of the night I helped clean up, because I've apparently decided to become a PTA person.  Oops.

Then... the weekend. 

Saturday - big kids went to tennis in the morning, then had a double play date in the afternoon

The girl play date was so flipping cute! The boy one... not as much.

Then I took the twins and my mom and sister for a walk, and we came home and had grown up dinner after kid bedtime.

On Sunday the big kids had swim lessons in the morning.  I took Aubrey and Lily to the grocery store with my sister.  Andy to Ezra to kidical mass.  It's like Critical Mass, except all those people are old and with kids, so it was a bunch of kids on bikes being cute instead

Ezra rocking a safety high viz.

I stayed home with sleeping twins, and watched K-Pop Demon Hunters with my sister and Lily.  I wasn't sure that move was appropriate for a 5 year old but she loves the music and sometimes you just give in.  I actually kind of liked the film, and I definitely like the music.

In the afternoon it was finally not raining so I took twins and sister to a local open air museum to look at old welsh stuff:

And then the weekend was over! Sister headed back to the USA today.  I went to work, kids went to school, and my brain was completely fried and unproductive and unfocused in work because OMG it was too many things.

Also, laundry is piled up, house is a mess, and I ate cold pancakes at 10am because my life is chaos.  I also lost my Peloton week streak (I think it was 50?) because I did no Peloton last week.  I know those things sound rather inconsequential, and they are, but the line between "woo fun life adventure" and "Chaos life very tired" is... small.

On the plus side, I booked a quick holiday to France in May because I enjoyed the last one too much and it turns out I want a European adventure with my kids EVERY MONTH (this is not sustainable financially or environmentally but it's fun for now)

Re-entry Report!

France was amazing

I have been to France 3 times.  Twice to Paris, both times a bit "meh".  Am I allowed to say that?  I'm saying that.

Once to the Loire Valley.  Mistakes were made on that trip - it was holidays in France, everything was closed.  I was pregnant and could not eat cheese or wine.  It was a bit.. Meh.

I planned this trip a few months ago - I used ChatGPT to find a location most of my family could meet. It needed to be accessible from Chicago, San Francisco, Rennes (France), and London and had temperatures above 10 degrees and it picked out south of France.  A friend of mine had visited Arles last year and had an amazing time so I decided to follow in her footsteps.  Quite literally - I stayed in the same house.

(actually, short aside, I booked another town that had a cheaper AirBnB, and a week before we flew out I read about the town and realized it was possibly not nice at all and decided to rebook the AirBnB my friends had instead)

The big kids and I stayed overnight at Gatwick airport because we had early morning flights.  We flew into Marseilles airport and then took a bus and a train to Arles. Arles is a cute little town in the Provence region.

I would like to someday do a full recap of the trip BUT the short recap is:

We ate a lot of Pain au chocolat, cheese, and fresh bread

We visited a super cool art building with a two story indoor slide:

There are amazing beaches nearby and it was sunny and 19c/70f one of the days

The house had an hot tub!

The kids had ice cream and rode a carousel at least half the days

We saw flamingos! A lot of flamingos!

And a Roman colosseum

And a giant fortress/castle built into a mountain

It was a super awesome trip.  That area in France is great and I'm hoping to go back again next year.

reentry has been... OK.  Busy.  the kids went back to school on Wednesday and are very tired. I had to go to London today for work and I think I am living on adrenaline.  I'm mostly caught up on laundry and mostly caught up on work.  I planned play dates for my the kids on Saturday (each are having a friend over) so hopefully we can have a bit of a calm weekend.

Twins definitely missed me after 5 days away. They got out for some trailer adventures with Andy:

I'm ready to go back to France now.

RachelinFrance reporting for blogging!

 Hello internets!

I am not disappeared

We are in Arles, France. Just me and the big (5 & 7) kids. Travel toddler twins would be a lot.

Little Lily was very tired yesterday after staying up until 11pm the night before travel.

We survived a trip to a French grocery store. I forgot that “meil” means honey. I don’t actually know French, but we now have honey Cheerios. We also have pitted olives. And yogurt that “tastes different”

Ezra asked if they eat Shepards pie here. My non traveling British kids are in for an adventure.

More family arrive today. I am excited to be on adventure again! Even if my adventure started with a 8:30 bedtime. 

Busy week, Burn it down Energy, Major Ennui, and more shopping updates

This week was busy - I had another work trip to London & Leeds, which was good, but also this time some of my colleagues (who I like) came as well and so instead of eating dinner alone and sleeping early I went out to dinner and spent time with people and I am now feeling person-burned-out.  Which isn't great because generally I like people, and I rarely ever see these colleagues in person, but I am just... tired.

On my first night my colleague asked me if I wanted to meet for breakfast and I told her I was going out to a cafe to do some journaling and planning and I would see her in the office.  I think she gets it and wasn't offended.  I don't get a lot of me time, and this is my "me time"

I went to my favorite cafe in the world and had my favourite breakfast and coffee and played with my planner and it was nice.

Also on this work trip, I got to go to a building while it was being built in London and go up to the 37th floor on one of those goods lifts on a building site and it was super fun and also a bit scary and also mostly amazing.  I am an office person but I work for a company that works for companies that do building stuff and so they organized this trip as an all in day adventure.

Also I will share this blurry photo of my new work outfit. :

 I bought this pair of shoes from Hush Puppies and they are actually pretty comfortable

Am I the most stylish person to ever enter an office? No I am not.  But do I look office ready and have an office look now that I can replicate without stressing every time?  Yes I think I do.  I am pleased with office wardrobe refresh project.

Anyways, that was my Monday-Wednesday.  Today I was tired and I had a big bag of "burn it all down energy".  I spent part of the day complaining to my colleague that I was going to get fired (I'm not - but the problem is that I've entered the sort of "business efficiency" operational space, and my efficient mind believes that if I am not being efficient then the most business efficient thing to suggest is to not employ me), looking at other jobs, and then contemplating moving to the North of England.  I'm not sure where this general sense of unrest has come from, but it's super uncool since everything is actually pretty good.

This evening I spent an hour sorting the house.  I cleaned toilets (I know, I never clean toilets!) and then I updated the photo albums for January.  One great thing about having a generally hard month (January) is that I took barely any photos and so the albums were super easy.  Aubrey had 7 photos for the month.

It's February 12th and I have taken exactly 7 photos this month.  There's only so much "here we are in the house while it's raining" that one can photograph.  Also "here's a sick kid" doesn't make for good photo memories either.

Anyways, it's 9:30 and I am getting really into reading The Women and staying up too late because it's so compelling, which it obviously was going to be since everyone has been talking about how great it is for ages.  So... I'm off to do some reading.  And then some sleeping.  And then more kid things.  

Maybe I'll take more photos.  or move to the North of England.  Or quit my job.  Although quitting would really be a waste of my new work wardrobe.

Are you suffering from February Ennui?  Do you get major burn it down energy?

Weekend Update with RachelinWales (just chilling)

Hello!  Happy Monday!

Sometimes Andy and I practice answering the question "how was your weekend" on Sundays so that we can be prepared to not sound insane if we get asked in work.

"How was your weekend?" Andy will ask me.  "oh, it was good, did a bit of house stuff, went for a walk, and just had some quiet time at home" I'll practice saying.

How was the weekend?

On Saturday morning it was cold and rainy and I decided we were not doing tennis and instead doing some hanging out at home.  My mom took Ezra on a mini adventure, and Aubrey, Clara, and Lily hung out at home while we did some house projects.  For instance... photo mounting project:

Just 6 months after we moved the kids rooms around and 6 weeks after we bought peg boards at IKEA we finally mounted the first pegboard and some pictures I bought for Lily.  Her room is finally coming together and this wall is no longer austerity wall, it is unicorn rainbow mermaid wall!

Lily seemed a bit low energy, and wasn't really eating food, which are two big warning signs for impending doom.  She was supposed to go to a birthday party, but I decided she seemed not very well and texted apologies.  She was sad, but was very excited for a sleepover with grandma that evening so was OK resting and saving up her energy.

During twin nap Andy finished another house project - replacing the light in our bedroom that we haven't liked for years and also had burned out bulbs we weren't replacing because we didn't like the fixture (cutting noses despite faces?)

We like the new fixture much better.

Ezra came home from errands and kids did something(?) while I did a toy sort and tried to return kids toys to the right rooms, and got a pile of clothes and unused toys ready for donation

At 2:30 I decided Lily probably wasn't well enough to go to Grandma's for a sleepover, but she really wanted to at least watch a film, so I drove her, Aubrey & Ezra to Grandma's to drop off some things and so the big kids could watch a film.  Grandma's house is 0.3 miles from our house (I was driving because I had big things to drop off).

Exactly one minute into the two minute drive Lily proclaimed "I'm going to be sick!" and then vomited on the back seat of the car. Ezra started yelling "there's sick next to me!" and so I pulled over, got everyone out of the car, and called Grandma who walked down to pick up Ezra.  Andy was taking Clara for a walk, so he picked up Aubrey, and I drove Lily back to the house and stuck her in the bath and started cleaning the car.

I am lucky that this is the first time I have ever cleaned sick out of a car, but it is gross, and I also wish we hadn't sat Lily in the back seat with the fabric floor.  We have weatherproof mats in the middle seats.  Lesson learned.

Lily watched Moana while taking a bath.  I cleaned the car and started laundry.

Andy came home, Lily fell asleep on the sofa, everyone else had dinner, I had a shower and helped with twin bedtime and then I went to book club!

Being in a book club was one of my 100 dreams - I was so excited when a friend invited me to book club. This was our first book club. I brought 3/4 a bottle of wine, because as I told book club "I was going to bring a full bottle but I had a day and needed some wine".

We read and discussed The Housemaid,  which was a fun read

We mostly just chatted because it was the first time we all met and we all got on really well

Suddenly there was no more wine and it was midnight! I walked home, read, and went to sleep at 1am.  As expected, Lily came in our bed at 3:30am, and so I slept in Ezra's kids bed until 6:30am when twins got up. I realized Ezra needs a non-toddler mattress (especially if I am going to sleep there).  Added to list of things to do.

Ezra had swim lessons (Lily was still poorly) so I drove him and Grandma to the pool, then we picked up pastries from a local bakery.  We all hung out in the house and did some playing outside because it stopped raining for 2 hours.  Over naptime I watched Mary Poppins Returns with Lily, and in the afternoon I took Aubrey and Ezra swimming and met up with a new-ish friend.  

Grandma made dinner, we did baths and bedtimes,  Andy and I went out for a short walk, and then I packed my clothes for a two day work trip to Leeds, set my alarm for 5am, and said to Andy

"So, what did we do this weekend?"

"Just a bit of chilling around the house really" he said.

And before we went to bed we did one more load of laundry and took apart the car seat for washing and emptied the trash to make sure there was no sick-clean-up stuff left in our house.

You know, just chilling.

Coat Closet Confessional - 2026 Coat Organization Project.

My name is Rachel and I have a Coat Closet Confessional.

I own a lot of coats.

Entryway Stairs.  13 of these are mine. 2 are Andy's

Not just coats... Jacket.  Jumpers.  Fleece things, zip up hoodies.

The problem is that I have, or have had, a lot of hobbies requiring specific outdoor gear.

In the olden days, before outdoor hobbies, I owned a lot of jackets for the sake of fashion but they all served the same purpose really.  I still have some of these, but the jacket clutter has grown.

I think I have somewhere between 15 and 20 Coats/Jackets/Zipper Jumpers (ie, outerwear... not including sweaters or things I can wear to work).

I've looked at them a lot and thought "I should get rid of some".  But also... which some?  All of them have potential uses.

I decided to look at it the other way.  Now, one of my goals this year is to do a Coat Audit.

Rather than looking at everything I own and deciding what to keep, I'm going to think about everything I do and decide what outwear I need to do all these things, and *then* work backwards to figure out what I should keep or not keep or maybe I need a different jacket that does more than one thing?

Things that have avoided the cull for years are as follows:

Green fleece with a broken zipper:

It's my favourite colour.  It's at least 15 years old. I wore it to the Cardiff half because I figured I could use it to the start to keep warm and then throw it away enroute (they collect jackets for charity at these things, which is pretty cool).  But then it wasn't that cold so I decided to just leave it with my bag and take it home after.

Green jacket that is neither waterproof nor warm:

I got it from Macys in... 2005.  And it looked great when I wore it with skinny jeans and boots but also I don't wear either of those anymore, and I actually can't remember when I wore this one last.

I also don't wear it because I own this green jacket that is waterproof and warm and I use it a lot right now for being outside in terrible british weather:

There are so many more like this.  I've got a reflective yellow waterproof jacket, and I've got a reflective yellow non waterproof jacket that also zips off into a vest.  I've got a purple waterproof that probaby isn't actually waterproof.  I've got a softshell that doesn't really fit.  I've got a brown puffer jacket that is super warm and a black one I got for free that's less warm but good for getting smelly or dirty (ie open water swimming or campfire).  I've got a purple patagonia that's a bit small and not that warm.  I've got a windproof that's super light and packable and was great when I used to be a road rider.  I have a purple zip up fleece, a fuzzy zip up hoodie, and old zip up hoodie... My jacket situation is Arials Whoosits and whatsits Galore

Anyways, the point of Jaket project isn't to share my hoarder shame on the internet, but to actually figure out what I need and then work backwards from there.  

That's a project for another day, but this year is the year of coat project.

February Thoughts, Planning thoughts, Clothing Thoughts.

Lily loves drawing Unicorns.  
These unicorns are currently everywhere.

February Thoughts

I've decided to have a bit of a monthly focus for February, but I don't have a great word for it.  It's basically "do things to reduce stress".  Here's what I have so far:

• Sleep.  Get enough sleep. Try to get up early, but not if it means getting less than 7.5 hours of sleep.  Focus on bedtime over wake-time (wake time is pretty set by the kids)
• Move. Walking and stretching and low impact bike rides (not every ride needs to be a HIIT ride, even if they are super fun)
• Comfort. Don't be unnecessarily uncomfortable - make sure I am not cold or hungry.  Wear slippers. Change into soft trousers/pyjamas. Light a smelly candle or add a scent to the diffuser
• Environment.  Nightly house reset, for shared spaces.  I like waking up to a tidy downstairs.  I hate tidying up downstairs in the evening.  BUT... a tidy environment reduces my own stress so I will do a house sweep every night and put things away and try not to resent it.

While these things probably seem like good ideas for life I'm committing to them for February only because February is a short month and you can do anything for 28 days.

Planning Thoughts

On Sunday I sat down and wrote out a plan for the week.  It looked like a very exciting week - I had gym with my gym buddy, a live Peloton ride, our cleaner was coming... I was excited for the week ahead.

Maybe I often live in the future because it is exciting and fun in a way that now sometimes isn't.  Looking at my week ahead looked sparkly and full of possibility! Looking at the week behind included getting vomited on by a toddler.  Looking at the present on Sunday was... fine. Vomit-less.  But still, I fully expected my week plan to not happen.  

Rather than be sad about it, I tried to enjoy thinking about how much fun the week *could* be, while also realizing I would probably get vomited on and miss most of the things.

Monday morning I woke up and started reading Best Laid Plans and had coffee and did a stretch and looked at my planner and then the day went... well! I was able to think in work and had an overall very good day.  Unfortunately our cleaner cancelled (they have come once, and cancelled twice, which is why I'm not feeling  the "oh I have a cleaner it's great" vibes... but still at least our Bathrooms got cleaned once).

On Tuesday I was tired, did not do morning routine, but did get a Peloton shout out for my 200th ride from Bradley Rose! 

And I went to the gym with my gym buddy for a legs routine which was fun.  We do evening gym and so I didn't get to sleep until 10:30pm.

On Wednesday I woke up with the kids, rolled out of bed, downed coffee, got kids off to school, sat down at my desk and started responding to emails and doing other random unfocused work.  At 8:55 I had a pop-up notification on outlook for a blood test, which I forgot was booked that morning, so I ran to the car and drove really fast (and also slow because traffic) to the GP, where I arrived 2 minutes late (they cancel if you're 5 minutes late).  I had my blood draw, then went back home, then proceeded to be mostly unfocused until 3pm when I panic started to get work done and then didn't "finish" until 5:20 when I realized I was meant to get the kids and relieve the nanny by 5:30 so I ran to pick up and left everything an unfinished mess.

Anyways, my glorious "flow through live" organization system is still a work in progress. 

Clothing Thoughts

I know this should include real photos but clothing upgrade project is moving along!  The Burgundy Blazer from my last post is amazing and I love it.  The shoes were painful and returned.  I managed to find one dress from my new favourite store - Crew

I also found a pair of Chelsea boots from Clarks. Are they fancy? No.  Are they boots? yes.  As the British say - it does what it says on the tin

I used to love buying shoes and owned lots of shoes.  Now, work shoes are my final clothing upgrade issue.  I gave up and bought black work trousers from Boden, which fit great but are £75 which is why I resisted for a long time. 

Also they are not ankle grazing on me because I am not a tall model.

But what shoes go with work trousers?? I feel the internet will say "everything goes with black trousers".. but does it?! I am not wearing heels or pointy toe shoes.  I think my trouble buying shoes now is that I want between 99% and 100% comfort.  When I was younger my threshold was maybe 15% to 20%.  I remember once going out on a date with Andy where I told him I couldn't walk home because my shoes were too painful to walk.  

The brogues I ordered were both painful and ugly, so those have gone back.

I ordered these shoes, which I'm not sure are work appropriate, but I think they look cool.  Also £30 (down from £75) which might indicate they are actually not cool... but we will see.

I have a series of office days coming up and I am tired of looking dumpy or feeling dumpy or both.  Also, there are a LOT of things on sale now, so I've been able to try lots of things (the Blazer was £64 down from £129!).  I will calculate the cost of this office clothing refresh soon, but if you have any shoe advice in the interim please help!